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Did God’s Marriage Covenant Change so that We may Divorce At Will?


Renette Vermeulen



[With acknowledgement to the person who published this photo]








A famous Christian actress and filmmaker, whose colourful biography I had the opportunity to write but politely declined, alleges in her publications, films, and seminars, “Some vows [meaning the marriage covenant] were made to be broken!” 

As always, the question remains, What does God say about this statement?  This is definitely not in the truth of Scripture.  This person disseminates a dangerous teaching, which she supposedly promotes to protect the rights of abused women — a legitimate cause, which she pursues according to the wrong dogma, but on popular demand.  Divorce, as marriage, is a very serious decision with life changing consequences for everyone involved.  None of us should ever rush into any covenant or the annihilation of a contract light-heartedly, for contrary to what such money-making sensation-seekers preach, God commanded us to keep our vows to God and to humanity as far as possible, (Ps. 89:34; Mt. 5:37.)        

Do not get me wrong:  I do not condemn, (as in sending souls to hell like only God can do,) divorcees or anyone else in any way, as we all live by God’s grace and need the blood-covenant of Jesus Christ to be saved, redeemed, blessed, and healed.  None of us can say that we do not sin, (1 Jn. 1:7-9.)  However, let us judge all the teachings of the churches to follow God through the contextual truth of His Word to also realize how serious marriage — and divorce, (if there exists no other recourse,) really is, (1 Ths. 5:21; 1 Jn. 4:1-4.)    According to the teachings of Jesus, it is clear that the rabbis of the Old Testament Covenant lied to Old Israel about marriage and divorce, (Mt. 19:1-10.)  Thus, they are still lying to us today, (Mt. 5:31-32.) 



Ţ All kinds of sexual fornication (such as adultery) are against nature

Ţ Adultery was punishable by death for a good reason

Ţ “Let no man [parents included] separate what God has joined together” 

Ţ God commanded us to “submit to one another” (Eph. 5:21.)

Ţ Unrepentant fornication, adultery, violence and other destructive behavior do justify divorce  Facebook Post August 2016, Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible

Ţ Facebook Post, September 2016, A harlot male is a Stud — while a woman is a Whore?”

Ţ Facebook Post August 2016, Speaking out or keeping quiet, when spouses check out other women and men, flirt, and commit adultery?

Ţ Facebook Post, August 2015I have been asked to write more about marriage

Ţ Facebook Post, 2016, Speaking of marriage as ''not buying horses,'' and illustrating the marriage covenant as two horses, yoked together, drawing a carriage.



At creation on earth in Gen. 1:27-28, “God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created [both] male and female. Then He blessed them and said to them, [both male and female,] “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth, subdue it, [as joint managers and custodians,] and [reign together] over [all the creatures of creation.]”  This was God’s commandment to both male and female, who were both created in His likeness, to manage everything outside their marriage covenant as equals. 

In Gen. 2:18, God described in more detail why He made humanity in two ‘parts:’ namely male and female.  After He first made the man, He decided, “It is not good for the man to be alone.  I will make him a helper comparable [equal, similar, akin] to him.”  Then, God joined them in marriage by commanding that ‘the two must become one flesh,’ (one in soul or like-mindedness, one in Spirit through faith in Jesus, and one in body through marriage.)  Thus, marriage is a holy covenant between one man and one woman; and the ‘two’ in this marriage relationship must remain only two people, who live ‘holy, honorably, undefiled,’ and single-mindedly as “one.” 

God did not make the man with ‘special marital and other sex privileges’ because, as the “marital head” of the woman, he allegedly has a higher libido and so, he is more ‘sex-driven’ and ‘sexually active’ than the woman.  If that were true, God lied when He said He made Adam a wife “comparable to him,” and He would have taken all Adam’s ribs to make him a whole harem of so-called “wives.”  “But God is not a man that He can lie,” and so, that story is a misogynist illusion, which tries to “legalize” the promiscuity of men while condemning the immorality of women, which is exactly what the rabbis did in the Old Testament.  In fact, disregarding the precepts of God’s Moral Law and His Creation Principles where women are concerned, these Old Testament priests, patriarchs, and kings saw women merely as disposable private property, sex slaves, and servants.  Sadly, this fallen nature governs men since the fall, tearing God’s holy marriage covenant to smithereens, while the fallen nature of women also led females into promiscuity, (Ex. 21:1-11; Mark 7:13.) 

Ţ It is important to understand that the marriage covenant is a lifelong commitment.  Thus, according to what Jesus said in Mt. 19:1-11, the death of either spouse is all that can untie the marriage covenant completely, so that the spouse who outlives the other spouse is free to marry again.  This is so because the marriage covenant ends here on earth.  Couples do not remain married to their deceased spouses, even if they are in heaven.  Jesus said in heaven the human spirits of deceased saints or Scripturally born again believers are like angels, (they do not become angels,) who cannot and do not marry, (Mt. 22:30; 1 Ths. 5:23.)

Ţ However, a third person may not enter God’s covenant between two people, who became ‘one’ in marriage.  Jesus commanded, “What God has joined together, let not man separate,” (Mt. 19:4-6.)  Under Jesus’ New Covenant there is forgiveness for all confessed and repented sinners.  Yet, the spiritual, emotional, and physical implications of adultery bring ‘death’ to the marriage covenant, and multilevel suffering and upheaval to innocent spouses, and family units.  God warns in Prov. 6:32, “He [or she] who commits adultery destroys him/herself [and his/her spouse and family.]”

God explained His stance on the marriage covenant in Mal. 2:15-14.  He declared, “Did I not make [the husband and his wife] one?”  Yet, the adulterating Old Testament temple priesthood, described in the Book of Malachi, who were the ones who also robbed God of the temple-tithes and offerings in Mal. Chapter 3, “covered the altar of the Lord with weeping, because He did not regard their offering anymore.  [When they asked God why this is so, He said,] ‘Because I have been witness between you and the wife of your covenant, with whom you have dealt treacherously.  [1 Pt. 3:7 also warns that treating your wife (and husband) badly will “hinder” your prayers.] Yet, she is your companion and your wife by covenant…  Let none deal treacherously with the wife [or husband] of his [or her covenant.]  For [I]  hate divorce, [and unrepentant adultery will end in divorce,] for it covers one’s garment with violence…’ (Mal. 2:13-16.) 

Where fornication, adultery, lies, manipulation, and divorce enter a home, chaos, confusion, sorrow, shame, hatred and violence will follow.  There is no such thing as ‘having an affair.’  Adultery of all types is sinful, filthy fornication, which directly attacks the holy marriage covenant as instituted by God Himself. 

Ţ Both fornicating males and females are “prostitutes” or “harlots” – not just fornicating women.  God never had any other sexual relationship in mind for humanity than the marriage covenant, which He Himself instituted in the Garden in Eden in the form of the lifelong union between one husband and his one and only wife, (Mt. 19:4-6; Eph. 5:3; Heb. 13:4; Rom. 1:18-32.)  Accordingly, incest, child molestation, rape, bestiality, adultery, polygamy, homosexuality, lesbianism, and every other kind of sexual perversion amount to anti-creational Satanism. This include so-called ‘consented’ adultery and fornication such as ‘grouping,’ ‘swinging,’ ‘sexual bondage,’ and various other forms of sexual perversion, because all these people actually ‘go after strange flesh’ like the fallen angels did in Genesis chapter 6.  Thus, all sexual sin is against God’s Holy Character, perfect creation, and everything that God  had commanded in His Moral Law of Love. 



In the Old Testament, Old Israel rejected monogamy or God’s holy marriage covenant in favor of pagan polygamy, or the keeping more than one ‘wife’ at the same time.  At the fall in the Garden, the disgraceful sin of polygamy, which is serial adultery, became the norm among the pagan nations of the world. 

Jesus will never violate His own commandments and creation principles, but evil religious men do with His Word as they please, (Mark 7:13.)  The subject of divorce, which supposedly ‘legalized’ male adultery by divorce “for any reason,” (Deut. 24:1-4,) was the argument between the Pharisees and Jesus in Mt. 19:1-10.  That is why He reminded them that they corrupted the Old Testament law to [fornicate, commit adultery, practice polygamy, and] divorce as they choose, “but from the beginning it was not so.” 

Jesus’ teaching in Mt. 19:1-10 referred the misogynist Pharisees to God’s creation principles for both male and female in the marriage covenant, (Gen. 2:24 Kjv,) and of course, to their joint-role as custodians and managers of life in general, (Gen. 1:27-28.)  Thus, the sinful Old Testament custom of adulterous polygamy is actually a symbol of how Old Israel and later, man-made church system, constantly rejected their Mono or One God to embrace polytheism; the worship of many gods.  As all Old Israel’s other idolatrous practices, the shameless adultery of their priests, and the polygamy of their patriarchs and kings, were neither sanctioned nor condoned by God, (Malachi 2:14-15; Deut. 17:17-20.) 

Ţ God abhors anti-creational sins such as adultery so much it was a capital crime in Old Israel.  His Old Testament law commanded that both male and female fornicators/adulterers and therefore polygamists too, had to be prosecuted before “a court of law;” the Rabbinical rulers called the “Sanhedrin.”  So, instead of rejecting God’s creation principles and adding to God’s Old Testament Law to protect themselves so that they could commit adultery and practice polygamy, those priests, kings, and patriarchs should have been sentenced according to God’s commandment in Lev. 20:10-27.  It states, “The man [and woman] who commits adultery… the adulterer and the adulteress, [both male and female adulterers] shall be put to death…” 

The “third party” in adultery was/is just as guilty as the adulterous spouseEven in secular law, (it is being changed now throughout the world,) “third party adultery,” which is the act of having sex with a married person, or “alienation of affection,” or “enticement,” (drawing that person away from his/her marriage,) is punishable by law.  So, if the ‘third party’ adulterer/adulteress can be punished by law, we can be certain that God will also hold that person accountable for destroying His marriage covenant, and the lives of the innocent spouse and family.  Therefore, I believe that the death penalty of Lev. 20:10-27 was/is applicable to both male and female adulterers and their sex partners. 

Ţ The Old Covenant death penalty for adultery draws us deeper into the serious dimensions of the marriage covenant.  Marriage is such an indissolvable covenant, it can only be broken by the death of one of the spouses.  That is why, in the case of adultery, this dissolution of the marriage covenant had to be finalized by the physical death of the adulterer, (Lev. 20:10-27.)  This is not Roman Catholicism, but truth according Jesus’ own words in Mt. 19:1-10.  This is why His disciples concluded, “If such is the case of a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.” 

The death penalty for adulterers made innocent spouses into widows and widowers, who could marry again without further physical attachment to adulterers.  Hence, under the Old Testament Covenant, ‘divorce’ is a completely man-made concept in dealing with sexual sin such as adultery.  The death penalty for adultery was such a harsh sentence because, in complete disrespect for God’s Moral Law, they violated and thus annulled God’s holy marriage covenant by committing fornication, infidelity, betrayal, rejection of, and emotional murder on their spouses, (1 Jn. 3:15.) 

Under the New Covenant of grace, adultery has exactly the same effects as under the Old Testament Covenant of the Law.  However, now, adultery does not warrant a physical death sentence for causing death to God’s marriage Covenant, and emotional death to innocent spouses, and the family unit, (1 Jn. 3:15.)  Still, adultery usually results in a very complicated form of ‘spiritual death’ to the marriage covenant, known as “divorce,” while it seems as if the adulterer walks away unpunished.   Because we all live by grace, there is grace for the adulterer, which he or she most often never considered to extend to those he or she were suppose to “love and cherish.”       



Through the complete atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ, God views all believers as equal.  Thus, Paul proclaimed that spiritually, “there is no more Jew or Gentile, [race] slave or free, [social status] male or female, [gender] for we are all one in Christ Jesus,” (Gal. 3:28.)  According to God’s marriage covenant, the husband must love his own wife in the same way he loves his own body, just as Christ loves His own spiritual body or bride; His called-out assembly of sincere believers, the ecclesia, (Gal. 3:25-33.) 

When God created a wife for Adam, Adam rejoiced, saying, (Gen. 2:23-25,) “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh.  She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, [understandably both husband and wife must leave their parents and all other people emotionally, financially and physically], and cleave [primarily] to his [one and only] wife, [and she to her one and only husband]; and they shall be one flesh...”

This means that both the husband and his wife must forsake all that is dear, safe, and familiar to come into real Scriptural unity in a new life together.  This does not mean that they should reject their parents, disrespect them, or discard them.  They simply have to establish their own home and keep it in Godly order.  The husband and his wife must take control of their own private life.  They must push aside everything and everyone that might cause sin between them to separate them from each other.  Everything and everyone that can separate them spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially.  Anything and everyone that can displace their attention, loyalties and priorities from God, each other and their children, (Mal. 2:14-16.) 

And so, the marriage-covenant does not allow any third party; either other men or women, parents, or other ‘gods’ such as alcohol, drugs, violence, or the many forms of abuse that are attached to it.  In this covenant only God is included as the Head of the husband and wife, and of course the natural result of this Godly union, their children, (Mal. 2:15.)  Our bodies, souls, (minds) and human spirits must be a temple of the Holy Spirit.  We cannot make the temple of the Holy Spirit into a filthy market for all forms of fornication, abuse, and other sin, (1 Cor. 6:15-20.) 

Many couples divorce through adultery and other forms of unrepented sin and abuse.  However, many marriages fail because disobedient couples do not “leave” their parents to “cleave” to each other.  And so, disobedient husbands, wives, and their parents, who do not honor this very important, basic principle and solemn commandment of God, also wreak havoc on His marriage covenant.  While good and Godly parents have a great supporting and Scripturally advising role to play in the lives of their adult children, selfish, manipulative parents slyly undermine the marriage covenant of their adult children, and make underhanded plans to remain in demonic control of their adult sons and daughters.  Just as adulterers, who destroy the marriage covenant and family through fornication, sinful parents never consider the spiritual, emotional, financial, and even physical suffering and separation, which their ungodly interferences cause. 

Instead, such manipulative parents often remind their adult children most religiously to ‘honor and obey their sinful parents instead of their Godly spouses, (which is a destructive lie that constitutes a great twisting of Scripture and a mockery of God’s marriage covenant,) while they never quote the rest of this commandment contextually, for then they must add, “Fathers, (and mothers,) do not irritate and provoke your children to anger, [do not exasperate them to resentment and sin], but rear [your growing, dependant children tenderly] in the training, discipline, counsel and admonition of the Lord,” (Eph. 6:4.)

Parents, family, friends, adulterers and other harlots, (both male and female,) do not have the right to “put asunder, [or separate], what God has joined together,” (Mt. 19:4-5.)  The time for parents to make their (valid) reasons known against an adult child’s intended marriage partner is before the engagement and marriage day are announced.  Of course, all Godly, truly Scriptural input from parents, (which is real love for their children and grandchildren,) must always be welcomed, but this all spouses must know: the selfish control  and demonic interference of parents and other people will always destroy marriages.



Real spiritual power can only be attained by Godly submission.  Whether we must “resist the devil” to overcome his wiles, (Jam. 4:7,) or whether we minister to our spouses, families, in the ecclesia (assembly of believers) or in the world, we can only have Godly ‘power’ or authority to succeed once we submit to God. 

That is why true believers can only ‘lead’ by true submission to God and to each other in marriage, secular life, and in the gathering of the ecclesia.  Peter explained in 1 Pet. 3:2 that wives must “submit to” or respect their “own [Godly] husbands” and not men in general, as other men have nothing to do with the marriage covenant.  This is not a forced subjection.  Instead, it is a humble attitude that allows combined, Godly decision-making in the home.  In fact, if decision-making in the home is not mutual submission to everything Godly, the marriage relationship will end in disaster.  Marriage partners must have mutual respect for each other and esteem, appreciate, and praise, in a human sense, their own good and Godly spouses

It was ordained by God that the husband must be the spiritual ‘head’ or ‘leader’ of the home, which does not apply to all men in general, or to secular and ecclesiastical life.  Nevertheless, the wife’s respect for her “own” husband must still be ‘earned,’ not ‘forced,’ and vice versa.  How can a wife [or husband] respect and/or enjoy live with an oppressing tyrant and/or a harlot?  When a marriage is solemnised, God does not appoint a ‘boss’ over the bride as many clergy teach.  God recognizes the husband as the servant-leader of his home. 

As all Godly relationships consist of Godly “submission to one another” in all that is good, the marriage covenant, which is a sacred ‘vow’ before God or an indissolvable promise on this side of the grave, (Mt. 22:30,) can never be viewed as a one-way, controlling, hierarchical, misogynist structure, (Eph. 5:21-24.)  Godly submission is the opposite of worldly ‘rule.”  So, the physical marriage covenant between a husband and his own wife, is indeed the symbol of the spiritual ‘marriage’ between true believers and their “Bridegroom,” the Lord Jesus Christ, Who gave His own life for His holy, submitted bride.  Just as our relationship with God is not the despotic rule of an oppressive Master over His  bride, we can never view the husband in the marriage covenant as a sinful, authoritarian ruler over his wife.  1 Pt. 3:7 states wives are “joint heirs of the grace of life.”  Because there is no darkness in God, when He commanded wives to “submit to their own husbands as unto the Lord,” He never meant it as forced submission to oppressing tyrants, as no one must submit to darkness, sin, and abuse.  In fact, because marriage (as every other relationship on earth) is a two-way street, God commanded husbands to “love, respect, nourish, and cherish” their “own” wives as their own bodies, (Eph. 5:22-33.)  The marriage covenant can therefore only glorify God if both marriage partners submit to each other in everything Godly

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