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God created one person, Adam. Then He made him into two different people, male and female, (taking a rib from his side, from which God created the woman,) and then God instituted the marriage covenant to bring them together again. Please note that all the Biblical commandments, which pertain to a Godly relationship between a man and woman, refer to the husband and his wife only. God never gave men permission to lord over or submit women to their ‘rule,’ not even their own wives, (Gal. 3:25-33.) Neither does the entire context of Scripture, which is real Bible Truth, imply that a woman should submit herself to any other man except to her own husband, just because God has created her as female. [To understand God’s creation principles concerning men and women, refer to God’s universal and specific plan for man and Abuse was not her punishment.] In fact, Scripture commands that believers should all “submit to one another,” in everything that is good and Godly, of course, (Eph. 5:21.) Through the complete atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ, God views all believers as equal. Spiritually, there is no longer “Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male or female, for we are all one in Christ Jesus,” (Gal. 3:28.) According to God’s creation principles, (Gen. 1:27-28,) a woman is only considered female on the physical level for the sake of her own husband, their marriage covenant, for bearing children, and for being the help-mate and marriage partner of her own husband, (Eph. 5:22.) Likewise, the husband must love his own wife as his own body, just as Christ loves His own body, (His called-out assembly of sincere believers, the ecclesia,) Gal. 3:25-33.) When God created a wife for Adam, Adam declared, (Gen. 2:23-25,) “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, [understandably both must leave their parents emotionally, financially and physically], and cleave to his wife, [and she to her husband]; and they shall be one flesh. They were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” Both the husband and his wife have to forsake all that is dear, safe and familiar to come into unity in a new life together. This does not mean that they should reject their parents, disrespect them or never see them again. They simply have to put up their own house and keep it in order. The husband and his wife must take control of their private life. They have to push aside everything and everyone that might cause sin between them to separate them from each other. Everything and everyone that can separate them spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially. Anything that can displace their attention, loyalties and priorities from each other and their children– but especially from God, (Mal. 2:14-16.) They must become one flesh. One in spirit, soul, and body. One person. One being: Mt. 19:4-6. And so, the marriage-covenant does not allow any third party. In this covenant only God is included as the Head of both, and of course the natural result of this Godly unity, their children: Mal. 2:15. Many couples divorce through adultery and other forms of sin and abuse. Yet so many marriages perish because disobedient couples do not “leave” their parents to “cleave” to each other. And so disobedient husbands, wives, and also their parents, who do not honour this very important, basic principle and solemn commandment of God, wreak havoc on the marriage covenant. Parents even slyly undermine the marriage covenant of their grown children, and make underhanded plans to remain in control of their sons and daughters. Such selfish parents never consider the emotional, even physical suffering, which their sinful, abusive, controlling interferences cause. They continually remind their grownup children to ‘honour and obey their parents’, while they never quote this commandment contextually, for then they will have to add: “Fathers, (and mothers,) do not irritate and provoke your children to anger, [do not exasperate them to resentment], but rear [your growing, dependant children] tenderly in the training, discipline, counsel and admonition of the Lord.” - Eph. 6:4. Parents, family, and friends do not have the right to “put asunder, [or separate], what God has joined together”: Mt. 19:4-5. The time for parents to make their displeasure known against an intended marriage partner is before the engagement and/or marriage is announced. Of course all Godly, truly Scriptural input from parents, (which is real love for their children and grandchildren,) must always be welcomed, but their selfish control and abuse of grown up children will always result in dreadful sin and cause destruction on Godly marriages. As the marriage relationship consists of “submission to one another” - in all that is good, Godly and right, that is - the marriage covenant, which is an indissoluble promise, can never be viewed as a controlling hierarchical structure, (Eph. 5:21-24.) When God commanded women to “submit to their own husbands, as unto the Lord”, He never intended it as a forced submission under an oppressing tyrant. Godly submission is quite the opposite, as Peter explained in 1 Pet. 3:2, “[Wife], reverence your [own] husband, [and not men in general, as other men have absolutely nothing to do with your marriage covenant. This is not an enslaved subjection either, but an attitude of respect that allows the husband to do the major decision-making in the home – rightful, just and Godly decision-making, naturally - which has nothing to do with the woman’s role in society as a whole.] Wives have to respect, defer to, honour, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, adore their own husbands. [That is to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love and enjoy your husband.]” How can a wife enjoy life with an oppressing tyrant? When a marriage is solemnised, God does not appoint a ‘boss’ over the bride, as many pastors and other clergy teach. Peter clearly commanded husbands to adhere closely to their part of the bargain when he wrote, “In the same way you married men should live considerately with your wives, with an intelligent recognition of the marriage relationship, honouring your wife as the physically weaker, but realising that you are joint heirs of the grace of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off.” - 1 Pet. 3:7. God views His commandment for a husband to love, honour and cherish his wife so seriously that He will not listen to the prayers of a husband who abuses his wife in any way – and obviously this condition applies to the wife as well. Paul explained in Eph. 5:28-33: “Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church.” [HOW TO HELP PEOPLE CHANGE; SHEPHERDING GOD’S FLOCK, Adams; RESTORING THE WOUNDED WOMAN, Fish.]
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